Marriage and relationships are the things every person does or wishes to do in life and many marriages break up even before they start because the participants sometimes lack the principles of moving it well. Here is a complete principles guide to your relationship or marriage that could make a life-changing difference in your marriage.
2. Make time together a priority. Budget for constant date nights, time is the “currency of relationships” so consistently invest time into your marriage. And remember to surround yourselves with friends who will strengthen your marriage and remove yourself from people who may tempt you to compromise your character.
. Always remember to make laughter the soundtrack of your marriage as it helps to share moments of joy and even in the hard times, find reasons to laugh. In every argument, remember that there won’t be a “winner” and a “loser.” You are partners in everything so you will either win together or lose together and work together to find a solution to each difference.
4. Remember that a strong marriage/relationship rarely has two strong people at the same time. It’s usually a husband and wife taking turns being strong for each other in the moments when the other feels weak so after knowing this, all will be well with the two of you. Also always prioritize what happens in the bedroom. It takes more than sex to build a strong marriage, but it’s nearly impossible to build a strong marriage without it.
5. Always know that marriage isn’t 50-50, divorce is 50-50. Marriage has to be 100-100. It’s not splitting everything in half, but both partners giving everything they have got. Give your best to each other, not your leftovers after you’ve given your best to everyone else.
6. Keep learning from other people, but don’t feel the need to compare your life or your marriage to anyone else’s. God’s plan for your life is masterfully unique. And don’t put your marriage on hold while you’re raising your kids or else you will end up with an empty nest and an empty marriage.
7. This is so important; never keep secrets from each other. Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. And never lie to each other. Lies break trust and trust is the foundation of a strong marriage. When you have made a mistake, admit it and humbly seek forgiveness. You should be quick to say, “I was wrong. I’m sorry. Please forgive me.”
8. When your lover breaks your trust, give them your forgiveness instantly which will promote healing and create the opportunity for trust to be rebuilt. You should be quick to say, “I love you. I forgive you. Let’s move forward.” Be patient with each other, as your spouse is always more important than your schedule.
9. Mold the kind of marriage that will make your sons want to grow up to be good husbands and your daughters want to grow up to be good wives. Be your spouse’s biggest encourager, not his/her biggest critic. Be the one who wipes away their tears, not the one who causes them.
10. Never talk badly about your spouse to other people or vent about them online. Protect your spouse at all times and in all places. And always wear your wedding ring if you have it, It will remind you that you’re always connected to your spouse and it will remind the rest of the world that you’re off limits!
11. Connect into any community of faith as a good church can make a world of difference in your marriage and family the pray together. Every marriage is stronger with God in the middle of it. When you have to choose between saying nothing or saying something mean to your spouse, say nothing every time!
12. And lastly, never consider divorce as an option. Remember that a “perfect marriage/relationship” is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other every day, every time.
