Nonetheless, if you have a smaller-than-average penis, you still might feel insecure about it. Some men make the mistake of comparing themselves to p0rn starsthe Olympic athletes of sexand that just isnt realistic, says , Somatic Psychologist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and AASECT Certified S3x Therapist. "In my therapeutic experience, most women do not talk about wanting a man with a big penis. They talk about wanting a man who is good in bed. That means someone who is communicative, takes his time, and is attentive to her needs."
Whats more, if you know how to work it, you can use your smaller penis to your advantage. Anecdotally, Ive actually heard that men with small p-enises are better in bed because they make more of an effort, Richmond says.
If you happen to be a little less than well-endowed, here are 10 to get the most bang for your buck (pun very much intended).
D0ggie Style
If you have a small pe-nis, "as a general rule, you want to go for any position that facilitates deep penetration, so that you can utilize the entire length of your shaft, Richmond says. That's why D0ggie Style is a great option. "Its not too complicated, , and you can reach around to provide her with extra clitoral stimulation. You control the speed and pattern of your thrusts for maximum penetration and pleasure.
Face-Off
This position is great for guys with a small pe-nis because its less about in and out penetration, and more about "wiggling" around while you're inside your partner. It also allows for , , and heavy petting.
You can consider wearing a vibrating with this position, explains Ian Kerner, Ph.D., LMFT, s3x therapist, and author of She Comes First . If you deep thrust with a vibrating ring you'll be providing intense clitoral stimulation with your thrusts, which will compensate for lack of cervical stimulation, he says. (FYI: You can find a list of our favorite cock rings !)
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The Little Dipper
For The Little Dipper, your partner uses either a bed, couch, or chair to hoist their body over you. You then insert your pe-nis into your partners va-gina or anus whichever you both are feeling! If done correctly, you should be in a T-shaped formation.
This position allows for both deep penetration and easy access for clitoral stimulation, Kerner says. The clitoris is the powerhouse of female pleasure, he adds. The vagina has far fewer nerve endings than the clit-oris, which is only intermittently stimulated during most standard intercourse positions. Thats why positions that allow for and are ideal for people with a smaller pe nis.
Cowgirl
There are numerous cowgirl variations that you can check out . Its tough to recommend just one for men with a smaller pe nis, because it depends on how small your pe nis truly is, along with its angle. See if regular cow girl is getting the job done. If not, try switching to , which allows for deep penetration, manual clitoral stimulation, and G-spot stimulation.
Stand and Deliver
Also known as The Bicycle, Stand and Deliver allows for incredibly deep penetration. Stand at the edge of a bed or desk while your partner lies back and raises their legs to their chest. Their knees are bent as if they're doing a "bicycling" exercise. From there, grab their ankles and enter them.
This is another position that allows for both deep penetration and manual clit oral stimulation, Kerner says.
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Elevated Reverse Cowgirl
Elevated reverse cowgirl is just a simple variation on the classic "To maximize penetration, place a pillow under your hips, Richmond says. So youre laying on the bed or floor, and theyre sitting on you facing away." Why does this work? The extra elevation in your hips .
The Spork
This one is great because it allows you to use your partner's leg as leverage. Have your partner lie on floor with one leg extended straight. Kneel between their legs and raise their other leg straight up so its resting on your shoulder. Keep ahold of their leg as you enter, and use it to push and pull on as you thrust in and out, says Richmond.
Pole Position
Sit on the side of a couch and have your partner sit on you, but with their legs facing either right or left rather than straight ahead. This will cause their hips to drop slightly more than in normal cowgirl, and give you the extra penetration youre looking for, Richmond suggests. You can either use your hands to lift their hips up and down, or, if youre sitting down low enough, they can use their feet to push off the floor to create momentum.
The G-Whiz
This is perhaps the most maximum penetration position out there. Have your partner lie on their back and pull their knees up to their chest and roll back so their hips lift off the floor, Richmond says. Then you can scooch up in front of your partner and penetrate. If your knees permit, you can actually squat next to them with your knees moving outside of theirs, Richmond adds. It's an awesome position because their hips are elevated and you can control the force of your thrusts. To ensure their comfort, make sure to do it on a carpeted floor or couch.
The Flatiron
Have your partner lie on their stomach with their feet squeezed tightly together. To help with penetration, have them put a pillow underneath their pelvis. Lie on their back and enter from behind. Because their hips are in a position thats more closed than open, there will be greater friction created on their , says Richmond. The tighter they squeeze their legs, the more friction and pleasure youll both feel.
